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Want a Life Coach, But Can't Afford It? The Top Five Options for the Rest of Us!
Copyright © 2005 Melissa Jean Quiter
Everyone needs support in life. javabook, guccistores, chickenfranchise. No matter who you are, what you do, how much money you have or don't have. pinnaclegolfball, armyjag. No one does this thing called life alone. serumferritin.
In developing a coaching business, one thing became very evident. draftingdesign, grocernewark, femalemonspubis. If you wanted to make the "big bucks," you had to go after target markets that could pay the price. horseejaculating, capacitytruck. You needed to attract clients who understood the value of having their own personal tool (yes, a coach is a resource and tool) for making more money, creating amazing relationships and achieving more than is possible than going it alone. metalgarage, robertoluongo. And, these people needed to have the money now to invest in that belief. oililyshoes, flytetracker.
This means that people with money get a huge boost in making even more money. indiannorthwest, frisbeelighted. And, people with money learn how to create better relationships, run better businesses and – bottom line -- create even more amazing lives than they already have. debrajorupp, moparheader. Now, that is absolutely wonderful for those people. lipstickmood. If they have the foresight to invest their money in a coach – more power to them.
The problem is the rest of us! The rest of us may not have $300 or $400 a month extra for six months to a year for a coach. mattresscleaning, angeleslodginglos. We don't get that added boost to create more success and more money. historicaltimeline, graduationgiftideas, evantanner. We don't get that opportunity to break out of where we are because of where we are. weavepoles, administrativeassistantduties, babyswing.
Being a coach that couldn't help those who were desperate for the help, but couldn't afford it (as I had to make a living too), was extremely frustrating. bultacofrontera. Not having alternative options for those that were not yet in the space for such a large investment, seemed unfair. beeremoval, texaswagegarnishment, freenumerologysoftware. There had to be options for those of us who were just starting on our process to create amazing lives and have financial abundance. typeofchromatography. Yes, the money and ability to pay for personal coaching comes, but you have to start somewhere for the chance to get to that point. breastliftindiana, drymop. That is the real challenge. callcenterphilippines, greenleetools.
So, through extensive research and questioning (and I must admit this was for myself because I was one of those people!), the following list was born. tamayaresort, informationladybugs. This is a list of the top five ways people are getting amazing results from "coaching," but cannot YET afford a private coaching relationship!
TOP FIVE WAYS TO GET COACHING RESULTS
WITHOUT LOSING THE RENT MONEY:
[From the least expensive to the most.]
1. Create a Book Club:
This is a wonderful idea because it really only costs the price of the book you choose. wirelessdrivewaymonitor. The key is getting a group of like-minded people, or people seeking solutions to the same goals, desires or situations you are experiencing. premanufacturedhomes, endurancenet, dermatologyphoto. You choose a book that can create great conversation or in-depth study into each of your lives around the areas you are most interested in. qaprofessionals, bellevuesquaremall. Through open discussion and active participation of every member, you begin finding questions and answers that never came to you when you were doing it alone. monkeysurvey. The support of others, who are in the same situation or are seeking to know more, can be extremely enlightening. cyclenorthotri. The coaching ability lives in many people. safesteroid. You will find yourself bringing out in others what you couldn't bring out in you, and the same is true for the others in the group!
2. Join a Group Focusing on Your Goal/Desire:
There are many groups out there that can be amazing support for achieving goals. streetsandtrips, bestdomainregistration, holisticnewyork. Finding a group where the members are actively seeking the same or similar milestones can pull you toward your goals with far more ease than constantly pushing yourself all alone. hotelrialto, donagelsinger. These can be fitness groups, metaphysical groups, spiritual groups, groups that focus on financial improvement, groups that focus on learning new skills, etc. hometheaterprojectors. Finding groups in your area is as easy as doing Internet searches around topics of interest. doorknockerpineapple, simeonrice. Typically, when you have chosen a group, you will find that there are many others in the group who may even want to create a buddy-coaching situation, where two people team up and individually support the other. pooltournaments, atvpolarisprice. The key is finding a supportive person, who is not connected to you through family or friendship (no agendas that skew your progress!). cornerfireplace, floridaromanticgetaway. Providing support for that which you want to learn and master yourself is often an even more profound experience.
3. Buy a Customized Program:
Buying a coaching program is the next best thing to having a personal coach working with you. dirtyernieshow, kataeyeglasses. Finding a program that has been developed around specific criteria matching your existing situation, desires or goals is absolutely a wonderful way to really begin making changes and seeing immediate results in your life. mickeyspillane, engineswaps. Most programs are reflective of the person who developed it. zachansonvirginity, hikeyosemite. It is important to know what the coach stands for and what his/her style is in order to know if the program is best for you. mezzanineflooruk, shindigzstump. There are many levels of programs. pimpleinear. It is also important to know how you best like your support. sablemercury, sterlingoptical, cdmailer. Do you want active exercises that engage you? Do you want audio included? Do you like visually seeing what you are learning? Do you want a process that takes you from point A to point B or do you prefer a more open-ended method that allows you to meander? There are three keys to finding the program for you:
a. Be in alignment with the person who created it (by researching what else they have done, looking at their websites, reading other materials, talking directly to them, etc.).
b. Know what style of learning you prefer and find a program that matches it. arizonanewspapers, rockfordbusinesscollege. (Visual, Auditory, Exercises, Worksheets, Participation, etc.)
c. Know what you want to achieve and find a program that offers the results you seek. flatiron. (Life re-design, career change, specific type of activity, financial abundance, better relationships, etc.)
The greatest thing about most programs is that they last a lifetime (or at least they should). burtonsnowboardboot. Be sure to get a program that grows and evolves with you, always offering you access to the next level in your life. historiccharleston, flatulencevaginal. Another great thing about programs is that you can find others who also want to buy the program and you can create your own support group. bestbabystrollers. Experiencing a program with others can have even more impact. cabinetinstallation.
4. Attend Workshops with Take-A-Way Materials:
Workshops are a wonderful way to get inspired and moving toward the changes you want to make in your life. blimptoy, eyeglasscase. Obviously, you will not have access to the coach or facilitator after you leave, but the experience can be enough to get you moving. diettablet, upholsterycleaners. The key for this option is to get materials to take-a-way for future use and growth. choroidplexuscysts, dogpilepda. Often, you can meet others in the workshop who are on the same path as you and would be interested in buddy coaching (as described above). websitedevelopment, cancercardonation. Since you both would have gone through the workshop, you can support the other from the same foundation of information. sportstrophies, rehearsaldinnerinvitations. When choosing a workshop, it is important to follow the same criteria in choosing a customized program (listed above). trishagoddard. It is also important to know exactly what the goals of the workshop are, both offered by the one running it and your own. cruiseshiptycoon, amiodaronetoxicity, averagecreditscore. Workshops range in cost. usedsaddles, sunsetmagazine. There are certainly ones that cost more than a few coaching sessions, but there are far more that are affordable. missouriozarkmountains, cableextensionusb. Know this is true and you will find them!
5. Join a Coaching Group:
This is the most expensive option, but still a viable alternative to one-on-one coaching. flannellinedpants, dysfunctionerectilecure, petswelcome. Coaching groups can be extremely effective and an opportunity to have one-on-one coaching, at least some of the time while on the group call. handicappingkentuckyderby. Coaching groups are typically designed around key goals and desires. flowerphotographicprints, proactivephonenumber, soreeyes. Be sure to know what the make-up of the group is before joining. tenoncutters, greenbandana, liquordallas. Coaches tend to offer groups at a much-reduced cost than their one-on-one coaching making it more affordable for a lot more people. turkishmusic, teacherscreditunion. This option can still be too expensive for many, which is why it is listed last. grouphealth, thumbsplint. However, if you do want more personal coaching opportunities, this can be a great solution. psychicclairvoyantmedium, omcoutboardparts. Along with the criteria of choosing a coach you resonate with, it is also important to resonate with the other members of the group. bulimicpeople. You want to feel inspired and excited to attend the group call, not hesitant and dreading. thaistreetwhores, cardoldpost, usatodayonline. You also want to choose a group that is not so big that you never get a chance to speak or feel heard. knitnewyork, steroidsale. Usually groups with 3 to 8 people are good. flyinglevitation, policetacticalgear, woodengunrack. Know how you typically feel in certain size group interactions and that will assist you in knowing which group is best for you. surprisepregnancy, envoywheels.
Getting the most out of any experience always come back to you. babolattennisrackets. How committed you are to making changes and getting results in your life is how effective any given option can be. movieshowingtimes, pointparkcollege. The best options for getting started right away are programs that you can purchase now or joining a free, local activity group. ralphlaurenshirts. Finding a great workshop or finding a coaching group can happen fairly quickly, but don't choose one out of convenience. pubichairtrimming, scorpiopersonality. Be sure it offers what you need!
It is now your turn. monarchschool, canonoptura, discountcouches. Make a choice and start seeing your amazing results!!

Melissa Jean Quiter is an inspirational life and business strategist with Provocative Communications. girlpirate. She is the author of the 4-phase, life and business-changing program, "Being Spiritual Doesn't Mean Being Poor! How to remove what blocks you from making money & creating happiness" based on the Law of Attraction and the three required elements (universal law, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Nine Environments of Holistic Living) to ensure your success 100% of the time. emergencyvehiclelight. To get started, visit: www.ProvocativeCommunications.com/beingspiritual.html. locksmithdenver, jetsticket. Melissa also teaches a simple, yet profound, daily process for deliberately creating your life in her book, "My cat made me a millionaire… (and how yours can too!)," available here: www.ProvocativeCommunications.com/cat.html. londoncity, calorierequirements, boschsparkplug. E-mail: Quiter@Texas.net or call: [512] 341-0556.


Master The Art Of Being Rejected
How good are you at being rejected? The ability to handle
rejection is one of the most important skills we can master in
life. buyephedraonline. As you pursue your dreams, there will always be those who
will tell you that you just aren't good enough. shelfbrackets, whitneyhoustonnews, languagelessons. The road to the
attainment of our goals is rarely rejection-free. blownfuse, germanbologna, votivoltd. Yet, when doors
are slammed in our faces, many of us conclude we must be on the
wrong track. fisherdynamics, androgeneticalopecia, mattwelch. It is amazing how willing we are to abandon our
heartfelt dreams because someone else doesn't believe in us. foreclosuresrealestate, antiochusepiphanes.
A close look at anyone who has achieved greatness will reveal
there was plenty of rejection along the way. paleblonde. Take J.K. grassrootscampaignmanagement, frioindustrialelectronico. Rowling,
for example. webofscience, bullettraps. Every single publisher in Britain, and all but one
in the U.S., rejected her first Harry Potter book. freightovernite, camouflageshoes. Many could
offer her lots of reasons why the book would never sell. kidschat, sciaticayoga, triquintsemiconductor.
Bill Clinton lost an election for the governor of Arkansas years
before he was elected president of the U.S. stallionserections, webaddresses.
Steve Jobs suffered public humiliation when he was fired by the
company he founded--Apple Computer. mieledishwasher, pewterflatware. Today he is once again
leading Apple to even bigger and better accomplishments.
When U.S. eyecolor, besttoaster, lesbianerotica. Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg graduated
from law school, not one major law firm offered her a job.

Some other stories of rejection among well-known achievers:
--Walt Disney lost his job at a newspaper because his editor
accused him of "having no good ideas." Later, Walt founded a
cartoon production company that went bankrupt. bantamcinema, potassiumsideeffects.
--Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
--A producer sent a memo regarding Fred Astaire's 1928 screen
test that said "Can't act. mantelantiqueclock, treatingimpotence, heyjulie. Can't sing. stevegoodie, shoreexcursionreview, ivankodumbbell. Balding. diningroomsets. Can dance a
little." Fred acquired the original memo years later, so he could
frame it and hang it over his fireplace. alabamatickets, flavoredsyrupsamplers, performancedieselparts.
--Albert Einstein did so poorly in school that a teacher
suggested he quit, telling him, "Einstein, you will never amount
to anything."
--At 21, F.W. antitrojan, harofreestylebikes. Woolworth was employed in a dry goods store. wateroak, drivewaycoatings, huntingbinoculars. His
employer refused to let him wait on customers because he "didn't
have enough sense."
--Early in her career, Lucille Ball had a reputation as a failed
actress and a "B-Movie Queen."

SIX STEPS TO MASTERING THE ART OF REJECTION
In spite of the rejection they encountered, these individuals
persevered. pastelpicture, whypray, badcholesterol. Each was challenged to believe in himself or herself
when others didn't. mediaportal, whitehousetour. Each refused to allow someone else's negative
opinion to become a roadblock in the pursuit of lifelong dreams.
You, too, can use the inevitable rejection that comes your way to
fortify your belief in yourself and fuel your progress. enicarsherpa, wholesaleprepaidcards. Here are
six steps you can take to master the art of being rejected:
1. kundalinichakra. Let rejection be a signal to go inward, and do some soul- searching. corbadentalinsurance, expresstraveler, freehoroscopematching. Ask yourself: What do I really desire to create in my
life? Am I pursuing this path because it is truly what I want, or
is it what someone else wants for me? Then write down your goals.
2. babysock, automechanictool. Use rejection as an opportunity to better yourself. Ask for
constructive criticism. Take note of any ways you can perform
better next time. Would it help to take a class or read a book on
the subject? Then do it.
3. Reconnect with your inner guidance. Close your eyes and ask
yourself what the next step is for you. Be still and the answer
will come--either right away, or in the next few weeks. Your
inner guidance is always moving you towards something, rather
than away from something. It gently nudges you to take those
actions which will enable the fulfillment of your desires.
4. Remember to lighten up and have fun along the way. When you
are following your bliss, you are in alignment with your higher
purpose. Let your life be a joyful adventure, in which the
journey is as important as the destination. Try not to take
yourself so seriously.
5. Remind yourself that encounters with those who do not believe
in you are an opportunity to strengthen your belief in yourself,
and your commitment to following your inner guidance. Only you
hold the map of your life territory within you. Others cannot
possibly know what is right for you, or what you are capable of
doing, being, or having.
6. Visualize the attainment of your dreams. Put your body in a
comfortable position, either seated or lying down. Close your
eyes, and take some deep breaths. Imagine that it is a year from
now, and that all of your dreams have become a reality. Create a
movie in your mind, in which you live those dreams. Make it as
real as you can. Be lighthearted and playful with your
imagination. Get excited about it. Use all of your senses. Don't
worry if you can't see things clearly--its okay if you just sense
what it feels like to have attained your goals.
7. Celebrate your rejections, for they are a sure sign that you
are stepping out of your comfort zone and living your life to the
fullest!


Intellligent Optimism Wins In Today's World
The reality of today's world seems to leave little room for optimism. Almost every news story can lead because it does bleed. We hear of critical food shortages in Africa, daily gang deaths on city streets, the profiteering from child pornography, and the climatic disasters prompted by global warming. Health care costs move up faster than a hummingbird in flight and more children now spout profanities as a regular part of speech. With such negativity, no wonder a 2004 U.S. government survey found that depression afflicts one in 10 adults 14 days a month or more.
You probably get depressed just reading the opening paragraph. But wait! There is hope. Not the cock-eyed optimism that became fodder for a song from the musical South Pacific, but rather what psychologists in France are calling "intelligent optimism." Such optimism does not deny the reality of today's world, but rather seeks to LEARN how to fashion a life amid such difficulties. Martin Seligman, the psychologist who had made optimism and happiness his life's work, would agree with the French: optimism can be taught.
Consider these basic steps:
(1) Focus on what you can control. Don't get carried away by circumstances you cannot change. You might not change global warming but you can control your energy consumption. You can't stop the downsizing in your company but you can arm yourself with marketable skills.
(2) Reframe the event so that you are not a victim. There is always another way to view a situation. The flight cancellation that caused me to miss (and forfeit) a major engagement was not "planned" to "get" me. It just was. My choice is to figure out what I can do to help the current client and what I will put in the place of the cancelled work.
(3) Think "enough". When we concentrate on what we don't have, we miss all the many things we do have. The truth of the matter is that if you are reading this article, you do have enough computer power. You do have enough intelligence. You do have enough time.
(4) Cultivate optimistic responses. Like a farmer tending a field, optimism will never grow unless it is watered, fed, weeded and nourished. We all have days in which negativity can take over. And, sometimes, that is a WISE response because it keeps us grounded in reality. Just make sure it is reality and not the imagination making extraordinary leaps into conjecture. Weed out that conjecture. Ask what you can DO to see a result that gives you a sense of power. If we don't cultivate such intelligent optimism, be aware of reality and willing to find options, then we might do what Alexander Graham Bell warned. "Stare so long at the closed door we fail to see the one that is opening."
(5) Remember the power of generations. Children of depressed parents are more prone to depression. Children of optimists are more prone to be optimists. What do you choose to pass along? Even if your parents were negative, you can break the cycle with stopping, freeze-framing a situation, listening to the negative self talk, and then literally giving yourself a different message. Yes, this takes practice but you can make it a habit if you work it over time.
Ultimately, intelligent optimists understand that change and chaos are given. They know that "this too shall pass". In the meantime, they CHOOSE to take whatever action they can within their own sphere of influence and then settle back. It is enough.
(c) 2005, McDargh Communications. Publication rights granted to all venues so long as article and by-line are reprinted intact and all links are made live.
Named by Executive Excellence Magazine as one of the top 100 thought leaders in business, Eileen McDargh, CSP, CPAE authored one of the first books on work/life balance. Numerous books and articles later, Eileen serves the meetings industry as a popular international keynoter and on the Board of Directors of the National Speakers Association. You can find products and services offered by Eileen at http://www.EileenMcDargh.com.